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Here are some friends with simlar question as we.And I have this question for many days,anyone help us?
Kitty said: Yes.Do you think its wrong to make my fiance stop eating red meat once we get marrie-I try seach this on internet but no results found.Maybe this is a stupid question.
Mike said: oh,no,you are wrong.I have found as below for this question(Do you think its wrong to make my fiance stop eating red meat once we get marrie),it will help you,my kids.
i love him to death but i cant stand the sight of meat. so sould i have him stop eating red meat once we get married? cuz he says that he doesnt have a problem with it. but i know deep down inside he'll miss eating that nasty meat of his. any ideas on what i can do?

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If you love him for himself you will not ask him to change for you. You should ask yourself, "if nothing changes about my relationship or my partner, can I live with things the way they are for the rest of my life?" If the answer is "no" you need to reconsider marrying him. How would you feel if he asked you to START eating meat because he is sick of you eating differently than him?
Well, he can eat meat at lunch and when you go out for dinner. For dinner try delicious recipes for fish and chicken to keep him happy.
LOL...good luck trying to get him to stop if he doesn't want to. I don't see why anyone would not want to eat meat in the first place...animals taste DELICIOUS.
Anytime you use the "make" in a relationship you are asking for trouble. Don't try and make anyone do anything. Fix your veggie food and just let it go. If he is in agreement he will go along with it. I don't think you should have a fit if he fixes meat for himself or goes out for it. His choice just like veggie is yours.
you cannot force him, perhaps when he see's your healthy lifestyle and tastes your incrediblt vegan dishs, he will automatically stop..do what i did, made my husband prepare and clean up after is own muscle and tendon feasts..i can't even stand the smell, no less watch the bloody ooze.
Have you asked him to stop eating meat?? I think that asking someone to do something even though you know they would rather not is a bit harsh.

I have been married for 6 years. Recently I was told that I could not eat red meat or anything with gluten in it because of digestive issues. I NEVER thought to ask my husband to stop eating those things because I don't. The changed were for my benefit, not his. He shouldn't have to give up things he likes, BUT, he has made alterations to his diet to make it easier on me, and I never asked him to. I still prepare steak for him everyone once in awhile, like last night. I grilled him a steak and salmon for myself. Compromise, marriage is made of it.
I think that if your husband wants to eat red meat and its not hurting him or you then you should let him. Why make someone change something that they enjoy just because you dont prefer it. You will end up having him resent you in the long run because he is making silly sacrifices. Now if it was something like smoking cigarettes or drinking alcohol then you have a legitimate gripe. Thats just my thought on the matter. Good luck!
Don't force your beliefs on his choice, it will only lead to trouble.
you can have him stop eating meat but you can also let him have a steak for example once a month.I mean if he hasn't chosen to go vege then you can't force him,as you said,coz he hasn't learned yet how it is to follow a free-of-red-meat diet.But I'm sure you'll get him used to such way of life.
Yes it is wrong and here's why. You cannot, cannot, CANNOT change a person. If you're going to get married, you have to accept the person exactly as he is and even assume that it will get worse. That said, if you are truly revulsed by red meat, you can ask that he only eat it when you aren't around. For example, he gets to go to a steakhouse for lunch during the week with coworkers or if he has a night out with friends. But you know that he eats meat now, if you really love him, you just have to accept it.
'MAKE MY FIANCE STOP'

I have a problem with you thinkng you have the right or ability to have anyone do anything just because you are getting married.

Settle it before you get married. Seems silly to me
An interesting problem - my wife is a vegetarian - I'm not - she tolerates my occasionally eating meat and I love her cooking- she's a trained chef.

If this is really imprtant to you, you may not be compatible unless he can forgo meat forever, or at least in front of you.

But will you be able to stand his smell if he continues to eat meat? Even when you're not around?

If it was me, I would resolve these issues, perhaps with a counselor before you take that total commitment step.
Yes it's wrong. You know that it is or you wouldn't have asked such a silly question. When you try to change a person it never works out the way YOU want it to and you just end up being hurt.Good Luck trying.
why do you have to wait until you are getting married to decide on something you both should have discussed long before this --- particularly as you're engaged ( unless you made that decision yesterday ) !?
i don't mean to be a loser but i do think your future marriage will be lost if you cannot compromise --- and after all --- it's his "nasty meat" that is the issue in your opinion --- not your nasty habits !!! of getting your own way ??? hmmm leaves plenty for the imagination ---- how long do you feel the marriage will last !!!??? good luck
if u cant stand the sight of meat, why get married
If he loves you, he should be ready and willing to make that compromise. I would give him the option of eating the meat, just not in your presence.
Yes, I do think it's wrong.

I've never tasted meat, think most types are pretty disgusting things to cook, etc, etc, but. Wrong, wrong, wrong.

The time to resolve that stuff is _before_ you get married.

You can certainly ask for considerations -- ask him to use a ventilation fan over the stove when he cooks, etc. You can certainly get him to buy only good-quality meat; in my experience, it's the cheap stuff that really reeks.

Keep in mind that not all vegetarian cooking is thoroughly appetising to others. My husband, a meat-n-potatoes type, loathes the smell of onions sautéeing. I use onions in a lot of things, and, well...fortunately, our kitchen has two doors that can be closed if need be...

I suspect he might find it harder to give up meat than he thinks, or else he already would've given it up. How would you feel if he said he was going to go vegetarian, but ran off for a burger behind your back on a regular basis?

My mother's also vegetarian; my father isn't. He eats a lot less meat than most meat-eaters, though. And says he appreciates it more when he does, so take that into consideration. Your husband will probably end up eating less by default.

It _is_ reasonable to ask him to keep it well-wrapped, to clean up after he cooks it, etc. There're cross-contamination issues there anyway, and damned if I'm going to wash a beef grease-encrusted pan or deal with bits of it in the sink. But, really, it's not all that hard to live with somebody who eats meat. Good luck.
Why would you want to MAKE him do such a thing. How about compromise...no meat in the house, but he is welcome to enjoy a meal out once a week or once a month, without you expounding on the nastiness of meat. When he does, ask him how he enjoyed it, without saying anything negative about it. Food should be a personal choice. I am vegetarian, but have adopted this policy with my 12 year old daughter. She is vegetarian too, but knows if she chooses to have meat out, she is welcome to. He should respect your views to not have meat in the house. Congratulations on your forthcoming marriage. With loads of compromise, I am sure you will be very happy together. Good luck
Do not deprive the man from his meat.
Are you by any chance very young? The words you use - "make my fiance stop" and "have him stop" - seem to belong to a parent-child relationship. Parents can "make" their kids give up something, but adults are free to make their own choices, as long as the choice doesn't bring them in conflict with the law. One spouse can't even "make" the other give up substance abuse. All you can do is decide what is the dealbreaker for you, at what point you feel you would have to leave the relationship. And that decision should be made and discussed with your fiance before marriage, just as it would if you were both strongly religious in different faiths.
If you love him & he eats meat now, you shouldn't try to change him. Let him keep his meat, I'm sure he'll be much happier than if he was forced to change.
If you are already contemplating on making him change after you are married then you are headed for trouble. You knew that he like meat before you agreed to marry him. You should not try to change him and vice versa...he should not try to change you.
If he wants meat then let him be the one to buy it and cook it. Or if you eat out..let him order what he wants and you can order your veggies.
You definitely need to settle it between you before you get married.

If you can't stand it, is it OK with him if you don't fix it? If he still wants to eat it are you OK with letting him fix it or order it at a restaurant.

If he still wants you to fix it at times can you live with that?

There are so many difficulties you'll encounter in marriage, don't let it start over red meat! And don't expect to change him once you are married.
It's wrong to *make* or attempt to make him stop, but not wrong if he does so voluntarily. Seems he's doing so of his own volition out of consideration for you. If he wants to eat it, he can do it when you're not around.

You've got a good man there to consider your feelings like this, he's a keeper!
Do what I do with my children-I don't buy it, I won't cook it, if you want it, go ahead, buy it, make it, eat it.

They eat vegetarian at my house because it is most convenient for them. When they are out to eat, they can eat whatever they want.

I understand you don't like the thought/sight of meat, but it has to be a compromise.
I don't think it is appropriate for any human to make or even ask another human to change, married or not.

If you're entering marriage thinking that it is OK for either of you to ask the other to change, you're both in for a world of disappointment and resentment.

The "sight of meat" is your issue. Change your perception, and it won't look so bad to you. The notion of "nasty meat" is your judgment; it isn't nasty to him.

BTW, I'm a vegetarian. So this response is not based on a love of eating meat.
just cause your a veggie doesnt mean you should make him give up meat. its like him telling you to give up vegetables. its his way of life, like vegetarian is yours! respect him, or try it you might actually like it!!
My ex-husband wouldn't eat red meat or pork so, I never bothred making it at home. I ate it at restaurants and cookouts and I found that sufficient. Perhaps your husband will feel the same way and you won't have to bother preparing red meat at home.
That is a personal decision and it would be very wrong for you to push your beliefs onto him. If you love him, you should respect his decisions.
There are so many things to eat that are meatless and many great substitutes. I'm vegetarian but my husband is not. He usually gets his fill of his meat at lunch, when he is at work. We generally dont have it in the house but when he does want it, he buys it and makes it himself.


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